Don’t ask, just do

After the death of a loved one, there is inevitably a litany of never-ending questions, including “What can I do to help?” or “Call me if you need anything.” Grieving individuals seldom have the strength to communicate their immediate needs mostly because they don’t know what they are. This is when Don’t ask, Just do enters the picture. As a concerned caregiver, you can be the helper, the shoulder, the strength, the logic and the Read More …

Taking Care of You First

Family Caregiving is by far the most demanding and complicated responsibility one can experience—the caregiver must be “the jack of all traits yet the master of none.” Family caregiver is a person who provides non-professional, unpaid care for an ill or aging family member. Family caregivers may find the need to care for a loved one at an unexpected time in their lives following an accident or diagnosis of a serious illness at a young Read More …

The Old Fashioned Telephone

When my husband passed away, there was no internet, text messaging or cell phones; however there was internal email. I was saddened to learn that my employees read about his death in an email rather than being informed by a considerate phone call. I am sure they had questions and direct interaction could have provided answers. At the time we used the telephone to inform families that school was cancelled due to snow, or that Read More …

The Holiday Season

For some reason we all have embedded in our minds that once Thanksgiving arrives it is time to increase the level of stress we place on ourselves. No matter what type of planning we do for the holiday season, we all tend to let the gift giving and the changes in daily schedule and family dynamics affect our holiday season. Couple that with grieving the loss of a loved one, and it is enough to Read More …

Sorting through the Keepsakes

Just when you think you have endured all the pain and suffering a human could tolerate following the death of a loved one, a new daunting task lurks around the corner. What to do with all the personal belongings? The quick answer is — do nothing right now unless you have to. Why? Making decisions too soon can lead to regret and disappointment in the future. As you begin your new grief journey, wondering what Read More …