You are fortunate

The English language offers many words with multiple interpretations of their definition based on context, usage and point of reference.  Words that have similar definitions often convey different emotional responses to those who hear or read the word. None of this is new; however, I am amazed by how any two people can interpret the same comment differently causing varied reactions.  We see this play out time and again in a family or friend text Read More …

Current and Relevant

You might wonder how these words relate to those who are experiencing a personal crisis or grieving the loss of someone they loved. Being current exemplifies belonging to the present time and relevant is defined as being closely connected to the matter at hand. Therefore, “current and relevant” means living in the present and being applicable to life. As forward thinking as most of us are with the abundance of electronic devices at our finger Read More …

Rachel, are you over your loss?

For years, I have pondered the true meaning of that question. Why would someone who loves, cares or respects my wisdom ask that question? Clearly they have not experienced a significant loss because if they had that question would never be asked. Twenty- three years ago my young husband passed away suddenly from arrhythmia leaving me with a 2 year-old daughter to raise. While our daughter is grown living in NYC, I am happily remarried, Read More …

Please don’t try to fix me

Several months after the sudden death of my 32-year-old husband, the subtle hints from my friends, family and co-workers appeared – suggesting the time had come for me to get out more socially, begin sorting through his personal belongings and find the smile I once had.  The more they pressed the more I distanced myself from them and the message they were sending to me – “the time has come for me to move on.” Read More …

The fulfillment of a promise

As a mom, I could never imagine the pain and lifelong suffering of losing a child, regardless of the child’s age. The death is out of normal sequence and an experience many of you are sadly familiar with. Others find it impossible to imagine, as the fear of those thoughts are paralyzing. Twenty-three years ago my husband passed away suddenly. In the fog of the first week of him passing, I had my first heart-to-heart Read More …