Rachel, are you over your loss?

For years, I have pondered the true meaning of that question. Why would someone who loves, cares or respects my wisdom ask that question? Clearly they have not experienced a significant loss because if they had that question would never be asked. Twenty- three years ago my young husband passed away suddenly from arrhythmia leaving me with a 2 year-old daughter to raise. While our daughter is grown living in NYC, I am happily remarried, Read More …

The Old Fashioned Telephone

When my husband passed away, there was no internet, text messaging or cell phones; however there was internal email. I was saddened to learn that my employees read about his death in an email rather than being informed by a considerate phone call. I am sure they had questions and direct interaction could have provided answers. At the time we used the telephone to inform families that school was cancelled due to snow, or that Read More …

“Death Becomes Her”

On my recent visit to New York City, I visited the Metropolitan Museum of Art as I always do.  As I planned my visit, I was most excited to explore the exhibit “Death Becomes Her – this Costume Institute exhibition explores the aesthetic development and cultural implications of mourning fashions of the nineteenth and early twentieth centuries.” After working with young widows for almost 2 decades, I was curious to see what the exhibit entailed Read More …

Sorting through the Keepsakes

Just when you think you have endured all the pain and suffering a human could tolerate following the death of a loved one, a new daunting task lurks around the corner. What to do with all the personal belongings? The quick answer is — do nothing right now unless you have to. Why? Making decisions too soon can lead to regret and disappointment in the future. As you begin your new grief journey, wondering what Read More …

It’s One Year Later

In grief, we often refer to the anniversary of a loved one as an “angelversary,” the annual remembrance of our loved one who has left a tattoo on our heart. I now have the opportunity to celebrate two angelversaries: the first on April 14th when my husband Rod passed away, and the second on September 10th – the anniversary of publishing “Living with Loss, One Day at a Time.” I never imagined that the journey Read More …