Let’s chat honestly about the holiday season

Is December really the most WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR? Some years most definitely yes, other years maybe not. This year might be an “off-year” for you or someone special on your holiday card and gift list who may be experiencing a challenge in their personal life due to a death, illness, travel constraint, deployment or financial issue. As a society, we tend to avoid people who are suffering during the perceived “joyful time” of Read More …

Is there a difference when a loss is sudden versus anticipatory?

For ten years, I facilitated a younger widow(er) group in Denver.  Each month we welcomed new members to a group they did not want to join yet voluntarily attended in an effort to make sense of their loss.  As I listened to the attendees share their stories, I learned that while their loss journeys were varied, the outcome was similar. Whether a sudden or anticipatory loss, the group lost their loved one and their perceived future Read More …

You are fortunate

The English language offers many words with multiple interpretations of their definition based on context, usage and point of reference.  Words that have similar definitions often convey different emotional responses to those who hear or read the word. None of this is new; however, I am amazed by how any two people can interpret the same comment differently causing varied reactions.  We see this play out time and again in a family or friend text Read More …

Looking through a different prism

For 20+ years I have provided guidance to companies and Employee Assistant Programs (EAPs) in support of grieving employees returning to work after a significant loss and/or supporting co-workers who are navigating the loss of one of their own peers. In either case, the emotional reaction to the loss sets off challenges for both the grievers and the company.  Employees often feel their company doesn’t show compassion for their loss and the new challenges in their Read More …

Myths of Grief

I was one of them, the people who truly did not understand the impact that a significant loss had on the survivor’s well-being and their ability to understand the magnitude of the forever-changing world that is presented to a griever following the loss.  I was the one that fumbled on what to say or what to do. If my memory serves me right, I probably was the one that avoided the situation as I did not Read More …